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- Mon Mar 16, 2015
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Third Wave Masculinity Is Coming and It’s Going to Rock Your World
I felt like an arsonist at a firefighters convention.
Two hundred women were seated in front of me. I did not know any of their stories. I did not know one of their names. I did not have any insight into their relationships with men. I could only assume that there was plenty of painful chapters connected to a man, some man, or multiples of men whose character or conduct has impacted them negatively. When you are a “men’s expert” and you are talking to women knowing this makes every discussion an uphill battle from the start. The topic? Gender wars, the failure of “traditional” masculinity, the lies of “reactive” femininity, and the emerging “Third Wave” of men and women blazing a new trail of respect, honor, partnership, family, and impact that will be changing the world. I am shaking inside. Never fails. But I know what’s coming and they don’t.
Fast forward two hours. It’s over. We (my audience and me) are victorious.
Author Camille Paglia, a self-described “notorious Amazon feminist,” recently said about today’s gender-bending days “What you’re seeing is how a civilization commits suicide” (referring to the demonization of men by aggressive feminism). She added that today’s generation has “no models of manhood.” It appears that the emotional lava flowing out of the volcanic reaction to broken
male culture in the 60s is turning from bright orange to a hardened and desolate landscape of ash. The gender scenery is shifting again.
Our generation has seen monumental shifts in the roles men and women play. Television shows like “Father Know Best” exemplified a seemingly simpler era when men brought home the bacon for the women to fry it up in a pan. Along the way, a rise in feminism gave women opportunity, while seriously jeopardizing their feminine soul with illusions that they could be better men than actual men. The collateral damage of this gender-bending experiment was that the nation’s family unit has suffered, millions of children being raised without dads, men in retreat, and a titanic void of positive male role models.
It’s silly not to talk about the number one issue, the number one temptation, the number one economic engine in culture for men — and that’s sex.
Testosterone never goes away; your sex life isn’t just a physical thing. God knows where your sex life really is - on the inside. There is so much sexual confusion, so much brokenness. I have never met a man who hasn’t, in some way, been impacted or broken in the area of sex in one form or another.
God’s mind on sex is very positive. Sex is a gift. That’s how He created you. Sex is a good thing. He wants you to use that aspect of your life for positive things, not to misuse or abuse it.
God hates sexual sin, not because He hates sex, but because He loves life. Our identity as God’s men, our energy and expression sexually is to honor, worship and glorify God.
We all know God hates divorce – mainly because of the pain that ripples out of it. Still it's inevitable. People cheat, steal, hurt others, treat spouses unfairly or just walk away (with half of everything). Even the most amicable divorce is never good. Divorce stains, leaving a lasting impression on the spouses, children, families, friends and co-workers.
Regardless of the reason, divorce is common. It’s become a cultural norm, despite its nasty repercussions. In some ways, divorce is harder to deal with than a death in the family. At least the death provides closure. Divorce, on the other hand, never goes away. It is the end of a marriage, but the relationship with the spouse and children never ends.
Dating is one of the most interesting social studies. Two people with different personalities begin a relationship; with past baggage, a variety of ‘cultural’ expectations, socio-economic histories, family background, values, morals and faith -- you might wonder if it’s possible to think that dating can actually lead to marriage.
From the very opening line to the closing technique, finding dating truths for God’s man can be difficult because there’s not much “dating,” as we know it today, in the Bible.