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One-third of all marriages now result from online dating sites. So these days, if your profile captures attention, you have a higher rate of opportunity. And, as you review other women’s profiles, you have to decipher if you are reading fact or fiction. If you’ve ever ventured into this dating matrix, I’m guessing you’ve scratched your head wondering if there’s any truth to their profiles’ advertising. So I want to encourage you to take a step back, and ask yourself, “Am I advertising the truth, and acting the way God wants me to?” Or “Am I putting up a facade, which in turn, is setting me up for dating failure?”
The dark side of a touchy subject Talk about a rough crowd. One hundred and fifty college students on the campus of the University of Southern California have poured into a lecture hall to hear me. To make matters worse they have no idea what’s coming. All they know is that they have come to a “Relationships Forum” and that some older guy is going to be talking on sex, love, and dating. What they do not know is that I am about to gently but firmly pass along what I know about a coming apocalypse of consequences related to their favorite past time – hooking up. The forecast for tonight’s meeting is increasing clouds, a 100% chance of thundershowers, and golf-ball sized hail.
Dating is one of the most interesting social studies. Two people with different personalities begin a relationship; with past baggage, a variety of ‘cultural’ expectations, socio-economic histories, family background, values, morals and faith -- you might wonder if it’s possible to think that dating can actually lead to marriage. From the very opening line to the closing technique, finding dating truths for God’s man can be difficult because there’s not much “dating,” as we know it today, in the Bible.
A recent study reports one-third of new marriages start with online dating; obviously making the computer the latest, greatest cupid's arrow. I can see where online dating websites can play a role in connecting two people, but they don’t replace two of God’s timely dating truths. 1. Where to Begin? You can do relationships your way or God's way. So many adults take a vacation from God in the dating and sex arena only to wind up paying a steep emotional and relational price that will harm them for the rest of their lives. You may relate to thinking either you know better than God (pride) or that you will "miss out" (fear) if you honor him. Both impatience and arrogance breed horrible dating decisions.