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One-third of all marriages now result from online dating sites. So these days, if your profile captures attention, you have a higher rate of opportunity. And, as you review other women’s profiles, you have to decipher if you are reading fact or fiction. If you’ve ever ventured into this dating matrix, I’m guessing you’ve scratched your head wondering if there’s any truth to their profiles’ advertising.
So I want to encourage you to take a step back, and ask yourself, “Am I advertising the truth, and acting the way God wants me to?” Or “Am I putting up a facade, which in turn, is setting me up for dating failure?”
The dark side of a touchy subject
Talk about a rough crowd.
One hundred and fifty college students on the campus of the University of Southern California have poured into a lecture hall to hear me. To make matters worse they have no idea what’s coming. All they know is that they have come to a “Relationships Forum” and that some older guy is going to be talking on sex, love, and dating.
What they do not know is that I am about to gently but firmly pass along what I know about a coming apocalypse of consequences related to their favorite past time – hooking up.
The forecast for tonight’s meeting is increasing clouds, a 100% chance of thundershowers, and golf-ball sized hail.
American men grew up idolizing James Bond for many reasons, including always "getting the girl." I admit, I'm a fan of the Ian Fleming character and movies. But this week, I want you to see that James Bond is an icon of infidelity. God’s man can learn something from agent 007.
License to Kill Heart, Body and Soul
Bond, James Bond, had a “license to kill” in the line of duty, which was a license to thrill audiences for decades with action, adventure and romance. His license gave him access to travel the world and “entertain” women of all nationalities and backgrounds. This fantasy hero captures men, creating an unreal notion that men, and women, can slip between the sheets without causing any damage.
Don't tell me you haven't looked ... You know what I'm talking about -- women wearing skin-tight yoga pants. It's even big news. Clothing maker Lululemon Athletica lost millions of dollars from investors a couple of years back when reports came out that they had to recall their yoga pants for being too sheer. Imagine being in the store and seeing a woman having to prove the knit is too thin! Well, apparently the company fixed the sheer problem, but leads me to think there's more to this story than meets the eye.
Many times, temptation starts with the eyes, and where you look. In James 1:14-16, God reveals how sin starts with a look, and ends with destruction. “But each one is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desires. Then when desire conceives, it gives birth to sin, and when sin is full grown, it gives birth to death.”
I’m a big fan for marriage, even second marriages. Why? Because although God despises divorce, He loves family, and is more concerned about our character. He uses tests, trials and yes, even divorce. Why? Because he likes to redeem life from death.
If you’re married, keep it that way. Love your spouse like Christ loved the church, sacrificing everything for her. However, should the divorce bug bite, there is still hope for a second go around.
If you’re single, keep it that way, until you are ready. When is that? Hopefully soon. But keep reading, you have something to gain from this lesson as well.