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- Tue Apr 2, 2013
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Welcome to “Fantasy Island.”
Fantasy is big business, however it’s not all bad. It’s not wrong to have dreams or aspirations, or to say: “Man, I wish I could do that.” But when it crosses the line over into destruction, that’s when we have to stop and pause.
You know this as well as I do. You don’t have to find it — it will find you. If you are a man, you will have a relationship with fantasy. That doesn’t make you bad, it just depends on what kind of fantasy it is.
One of the top search terms on EveryManMinistries.com is porn. I’m encouraged by that. Guys know they are struggling with sexual fantasy. How could we not be within our sexualized culture? We’re finding that guys are taking on that battle, and that is encouraging for the future of our families and our culture.
Here’s what an uprising looks and feels like: deeply felt issues and injustices produce pain, creating emotion and energy. It cooks and simmers over a period of time. That time could be months. It could be years or centuries. Then, just as with a dormant volcano or roadside bomb, there is a trigger. There is a flashpoint. That flashpoint happened, and corporately the people say it ends here.
Uprisings are powerful. They are recognized by the power that they threaten. Those who are threatened need it to be crushed immediately. Think about our Jewish heritage. I am thinking about Masada, when the Romans crushed a revolt. Think about China: Tiananmen Square.
Uprisings are often crushed immediately because if allowed to thrive and be fueled by emotion and energy, they could change the course of history. Historically, we’ve seen these uprisings. Some were crushed while others succeeded like the French and American Revolutions.
The theme of 1 Thessalonians 4 is living to please God. Let me raise the value of what I am about to read. This is God’s word for you. What you do with it is up to you. My job is to share it and let his Spirit bring application to you.
This is what God says: “Finally brothers, we instructed you how to live in order to please God, as in fact you are living, now we ask you, urge you, to do this more and more for you know what instructions we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus.”
I want to stop there and have you say something with me. Say “In the Lord Jesus.” This message is for people who are in the Lord Jesus. If you are in the Lord Jesus, then it is under this authority that Paul says, “for you know what instructions we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus.” Of the Lord Jesus for those in the Lord Jesus: that’s important.
What are you sacrificing today in your life? What’s the pain that you are enduring to know Christ?
Let me boil that down. If you love your wife and you want to honor God in your marriage, you’ll suffer counseling to win intimacy. That’s the kind of pain I’m talking about. If you love Christ and you want to be one with Him and you struggle with lust, porn and fantasy, you will suffer the pain of confessing that to a brother who will help you win that battle. If there is a habit that you have that is not in alignment with God’s will, it hurts you and your relationships with other people.
- Mon Mar 18, 2013
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Because I speak everywhere to men, it’s so funny whenever a guy starts off a conversation with me by saying: “What if a person, what if a friend of mine contacted his old girlfriend on Facebook?” "You contacted your old girlfriend on Facebook, I reply, and you are all conflicted because you have a gold ring around your finger". They look at me like I’m Yoda. It is truly an epidemic.
As I have talked about many times with many men’s groups, when you don’t have the character to meet the reality of your current relationship, and you are not connecting physically in that relationship, then you are wide open to the danger of connecting with someone who doesn’t demand any character from you in order to connect with them mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically.