Love God with Heart, Mind, Soul - Tips for Living a "Set Free" LIfestyle

  • By Every Man Ministries

Whether God’s man likes it or not, we live in “glass houses,” meaning people are watching our behavior to see if we live consistent with our words, beliefs and reputations. A little Google search will lead you to find several “Christian” men giving our faith a bad name because they were involved in scandals and doing mental and theological gymnastics to justify what they were doing with the Bible.  Evil loves that kind of self deception and encourages it.


Kenny Luck, Every Man MinistriesJust like in war where you learn from the classic strategic blunders in history so your side doesn’t repeat them, I think there’s a lesson here for God’s man. It’s this:  God’s plan to have Jesus sacrificed on the cross for our sin and rise again sets you and me “free” from sin. But just like a prisoner who has his sentence commuted must learn to live as a free man and not return to his old life so must God’s man.  We too have to learn how to live in our spiritual freedom.


If a prisoner has not been ‘rehabilitated’ (or know how to live like a free man), then he will be tempted to make bad decisions, reunite with old friends, re-engage in old habits, and ultimately cause even more damage to himself and loved ones. He may, in fact, prefer to end up back to jail, where there’s safety in the boundaries, parameters and limited freedom.

Eating Men Alive -- Powerful Men, Common Fears

David Petraeus and Tiger Woods were two of the most revered and respected apex predators in the masculine pecking order. Both breathed the rare air of cult status in the most coveted zones of male glory:  battle and sport. They were disciplined warriors who possessed the spoils of manhood while simultaneously achieving “role model” status bequeathed to those who are professionally transcendent.  Both were also known best for wearing the color green.  The four-star general who hunted America’s enemies in Afghanistan suited up in green fatigues and the four-time Masters Champion dawned the iconic green jacket at Augusta National sealing his own mythic status.  Their icon status and aura created a perception that they were also morally sound, emotionally mature and relationally committed to their families.  Men and women, young and old, presidents and endorsers alike swallowed these Kenny Luck, Every Man Ministriestwo personas until one day both men lost their cultural “anointing” thanks to spicy and public revelations of sexual indiscretions.  Their falls from grace were painful sucker punches to their admirers and to a nation that covets its’ national treasures.


The news outlets acted like a pack of wild hyenas with a fresh kill, eating the flesh off the story as fast as possible without much energy or thought going toward the very real moral and emotional conflicts resonating within these sad events.  Predictably, journalists set to work dissecting the events, profiling the mistresses, and providing plate after plate of consumable journalistic gossip.  This dance of detailing the logistics of immorality while never commenting on the actual moral angles of the story is the oxymoronic state of our news community.  So what we got with the Woods and Petraeus affairs were the juicy details and “twinky” analysis bereft of any useable intellectual nutrition or meaningful insight from very painful stories about men. God forbid we hold up a mirror and actually learn from the mistakes we make as men so that we can identify the landmines and affirm the healthier patterns actually practiced by good men.


Suggestion: why don’t we stop shaking our heads at men and start exploring the powerful dynamics in these stories that are common to all men?   Why not talk about the very real psychological, moral, and spiritual dynamics at the root of these lapses versus just “tabloiding” the symptoms for advertising bucks and social media buzz?


Okay, why not.


What's Got Your Attention? Here's the Bulls-Eye "S-P-O-T" To Focus On

What's Got Your Attention


Here at Every Man Ministries we've been thinking about what really has our attention? Here’s a quick test to see, and be honest with yourself: 




Rank the following topics in order of importance of what has your attention (1 being highest, 10 is lowest):



Other _____________


As you can see, there are a lot of things competing for our attention, and perhaps you vary the rankings on a daily basis. After all, life is full of surprises. If your life’s focus had a target, and each concentric circle represents an area or topic you focus on, what’s in the bulls-eye? Here’s one “SPOT” to think about:

Torch or Baton?

Torch or Baton?




How will we secure the next generation of young men? 


We have all heard it.  


One man passing the "baton" to another. A father passes a baton to a son, an outgoing CEO passes one to the incoming one, or a retiring athlete passes the baton to his younger successor. Nice idea but wrong metaphor when it comes to faith, mentoring, leading, and discipleship.  Why wrong?  Because from the first relays in ancient Greece to the world track and field championships of today runners who pass a baton stop running after handing it off.  One runner completely powers off and shuts down while the new baton carrier turns the afterburners on and powers up.


That’s why I prefer torches to batons when I talk about generational impact. Torches transfer the flame while continuing to stay lit themselves to shine light and ignite fires elsewhere

What Fantastic Fathers Do: 7 Ground Rules to Becoming Fathers of the Future

7 Ground Rules to Becoming Fathers of the Future


Parenting children is such a mammoth responsibility. From infant through adulthood, children rely on their parents in more ways than the pocketbook. While no one is the perfect parent, certain parenting behaviors have serious negative effects on children. For example, studies show poor parenting can lead to higher risk for psychological disorders, academic performance problems, depression and low self-esteem, violence and behavior problems, failure to thrive, problems with the law, and poor social adjustment.


I would add that absent fathers leave girls and boys without a role model for how the family unit is supposed to work, how to have a healthy loving marriage, and how a man lives out his faith in good times and bad. This has devastating impact on our economy.

The kids are watching…waiting… learning. The question is how, what, when and where should you be teaching them?

7 Ground Rules to Becoming Fathers of Future

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