Most pastors dream of having a strong and vibrant men’s community that is driving the mission and vision of their local churches. This dream rarely becomes a reality because there is no compelling vision for men that is articulated, visible and connected to a meaningful process in the church context.
The idea that a man should just show up and give his best energy and expression just because the church asks is presumptuous and deflating to a man. Without a clear vision that makes sense to him, we orphan our best potential leaders to the culture where there is a clear, albeit unhealthy, vision ready and waiting for him. Then we wonder why most of our best men choose to remain affiliated versus activated in the local church.
It is because we haven’t painted the target! No end game. No goals. No pathway. No larger meaning.
Summertime means fun time.
For kids, school’s out, free time is in.
For families, special memories, trips and other adventures will be made.
For men, the juggling act continues keeping the balls at work in the air, while mixing in some time away from the office for some time with the family.
For Satan, summer breaks provide ample opportunity to ramp up temptation, distraction, flirtation, and ultimately destruction.
For many churches, regular meetings press the pause button and men’s groups take a summer break…Wait…
- Mon Jun 5, 2017
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Parenting children is such a mammoth responsibility. From infant through adulthood, children rely on their parents in more ways than the pocketbook. While no one is the perfect parent, certain parenting behaviors have serious negative effects on children. For example, studies show poor parenting can lead to higher risk for psychological disorders, academic performance problems, depression and low self-esteem, violence and behavior problems, failure to thrive, problems with the law, and poor social adjustment.
I would add that absent fathers leave girls and boys without a role model for how the family unit is supposed to work, how to have a healthy loving marriage, and how a man lives out his faith in good times and bad. This has devastating impact on our economy.
The kids are watching…waiting… learning. The question is how, what, when and where should you be teaching them?
7 Ground Rules to Becoming Fathers of Future
Let’s go get God’s mind on this topic we are calling uprising. If you have a Bible, I want you to turn to Jeremiah 3:19, and then we are going to go through Jeremiah 4:4. It’s the heart of God’s Word towards men.
We are going to see a decision by men when it comes to sonship. We are also going to see the consequences of that choice. We are going to see that there is a chance for a second decision to be made.
In Jeremiah 3:19, God says: “I myself said how gladly I would treat you like sons.”
I want to stop right there. Whether you are a believer or you’re not; God wants you as a son.
- Mon May 1, 2017
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Some holidays come and go with little circumstance. Others are little more than an inconvenient bank holiday (think Columbus Day). Then, there’s Mother’s Day, which is a road bump en route to Father’s Day, right? Think Mother’s Day is another Hallmark marketing strategy to boost sales of sappy cards, and dust-collecting knick-knacks? Is it a day to make the obligatory visit with your buttoned-up shirt and flowers in hand? Has Mother’s Day become a joke?
Not to God. In fact, an argument could be made that it’s the one holiday we are commanded to honor. Not even Christmas and Easter have the distinction of being a commandment to celebrate.
Taking it 364 steps further, the Bible says numerous times to “honor your father and mother,” which means not just on one day, but every day. If you do, there’s a promise of reward.
- “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” -- Exodus 20:12
If we are really honest with ourselves, I’m guessing the majority of men don’t give enough credit for their moms. But they should. I’m sure there are exceptions, but moms deserve a lot more than a one-day token holiday.
They carried us inside their wombs for nine months, and endured the birthing! That alone deserves a medal of honor. And, that’s only the very tip of the iceberg. If we think about all the mothering that goes on in life, there’s nothing even close to what moms do for us. Nobody can argue that moms give significantly more sacrificial love than men or kids, on a daily basis.
Honoring you mother synonymous with loving God. Did you realize that? In 1 John 4:20, the Bible says essentially that “you can’t love me and not love others.”
We at EMM encourage you to think of ways to honor your mom throughout the year. Consider motherhood a celebration of life itself! So for the upcoming holiday, here are some fresh, and not so fresh but tried-and-true, ideas: