- Tue Nov 25, 2014
God entrusted your wife to you, and she placed herself in trust to you. How can we entrust such a valuable gift to some concept of cherishing based alone on wispy feelings? Christians like to say, "Love is not a feeling, it's a commitment." Well, this is the time to heed those words. We owe that love, despite our feelings.
In our society, we have "sensitivity training" and "cross-cultural enrichment" classes. We believe if we can only teach people the "right" feelings, they'll act correctly. In the Bible, however, God tells us the opposite: We're to first act correctly, and then right feelings will follow.
If you don't feel like cherishing, cherish anyway. Your right feelings will arrive soon enough.
Remember, the Bible says that God loved us while we were yet sinners. Clearly, loving the unlovely is a foundation of God's character, and cherishing the unlovely is its bedrock. Since Christ died for the church - the unlovely - and since our marriages should parallel Christ's relationship to the church, we have no excuse when we don't cherish our wives.
God loved us before we were worthy; we can do nothing less for our wives.
- Mon Nov 24, 2014
Intimacy with God is our whole reason for fighting the battle, isn't it? If it messes up the intimacy, why do it? Besides, even if "clear-minded" masturbation isn't a sin technically, we still sense a bondage in the whole matter, and God hates bondage in His people. Paul said in 1 Corinthians 6:12 that we must "not be mastered by anything." On those grounds, all forms of masturbaton seem suspect.
Many men today are spending much of their spiritual energy fighting off sexual fevers. What if you kept yourself free from this draining fever in the first place, which would free you to expend your spiritual energy on God's kingdom?
There are those who say it's not possible because of the obstacles, but it's very possible. You can stop pouring gasoline on a hot fire of passion, desire, and lust.
It can be done.
- Sun Nov 23, 2014
Jesus knows the power of heritage as it's passed from generation to generation and how easily the message of salvation can be passed to our children in a purified home.
Jehonadab is a relatively obscure man in the Bible, but he's a priceless role model to husbands and fathers (read his story beginning at 2 Kings 10:15). He was known by all as one of the godliest men of his day, staunchly opposed to Baal worship and anything else that stood against God.
Then the word of the LORD came to Jeremiah,
saying, "...Jonadab son of Recab ordered his sons
not to drink wine and this command has been
kept. To this day they do not drink wine, because
they obey their forefather's command. But I have
spoken to you again and again. yet you have not
obeyed me." (JEREMIAH 35: 12-14)
The term sons likely refers to all disciples but surely included descendants as well. Do you know how much time had passed since Jehonadab set his example? Two hundred years! The purifying work he began in his family tree had such an impact that it was felt ten to fifteen generations later.
- Sat Nov 22, 2014
If we're to set good examples in our home, then as servant leaders we must keep focused on the word servant. As Chief Servant, we are to give in more often at impasses than anyone else. No one should choose to inconvenience themselves more often than we do, and no one should have a better attitude in serving than ours.
Jesus taught us submission by laying down His life for the sake of our relationship with Him, even though we were sinners. That being said, we husbands must keep the proper emphasis on the word leader as well. Yes, our responsibility as husbands is to command the ship along the course we've set as a couple, and though we must often serve by submitting our rights for the sake of oneness, we must never forget our duty to lead the ship safely into harbor.
- Fri Nov 21, 2014
Someone once said, "The greatest weakness is to be conscious of none." It would be nice to know the guy's name so we could give him credit for helping us see why God has given us confession as a tool for spiritual growth. The Scriptures encourage honesst confession because it produces awesome results in the life of God's man.
When God said to the apostle Paul, "My power is made perfect in weakness" (2 Corinthians 12:9), He was saying that when God's man is at his most vulnerable place, that's when God's pwer flows most freely toward him. Confession puts us in that place.
- Do you want more of God's power in your life?
- Do you want to deal Satan a right-hand straight to the jaw?
- Do you want people to trust you and be close to you?
- Do you want God to use you more?
Good. Then no secrets.