- Wed Nov 5, 2014
If Christians were consumed by God's purposes, it would first be reflected in our marriages. But the rates of divorce, adultrery, and marital dissatisfaction in the Christian church reveal our hearts.
Very few men are consumed by their marriages, and fewer still by purity, but both are God's desire for you. God's purpose for your marriage is that it parallels Christ's relationship to His church, that you be one with your wife.
When these expectations aren't met, we become grumpy and frustrated. Our will to maintain our outer defense perimeters is eroded. Well, if this is how she's going to be, why should I go through all the effort of being pure? She doesn't deserve it. We retaliate by withdrawing from our own responsibilities, but cherishing our wives includes being sexually pure. If this inner defense fails, the outer perimeters of the eyes and mind can also fail - and quite quickly.
Perhaps you're finding it difficult to cherish your one and only. To cherish means to treat with tenderness and to hold dear, and you want to feel the romantic urge to do those things. But what if you don't feel like it? Something with such ramifications upon your sexual purity and upon the very strength of your marriage cannot be left to feelings alone.
- Tue Nov 4, 2014
Sexual sin may have once stunted your Christian growth and sapped the power of the Spirit in your life, but not anymore. Now you are ready to soar in the power of the Spirit. Every little boy dreams of flight, to rise high above the earth and to be carried by fresh winds to new heights, gazing upon thrilling vistas while far above the fray. It is lovely to be holy!
Jesus came to impart the Spirit of holiness in you, and as you are transformed and as you lose your heart and desires to Jesus, you can stretch the limits of sin's gravitational pull and soar into the sunshine of freedom. As the Holy Spirit takes the Word and makes it powerful in you, everything that presents itself against the obedience and fulness of Christ withers in its light.
You can hold your own through God's grace and the working of the Holy Spirit in you. You can grow, and power can flow. Yes, even in you.
- Mon Nov 3, 2014
Do you want to become God's man? If so, consider:
- Are you willing to come clean and confess your sins to God and at least one other person?
- Are you willing to serve your wife's family, even though you thought they were supposed to look after your interests first?
- Are you willing to give God at least fifteen minutes a day to talk with Him and read His Word?
- Are you willing to protect your integrity with boundaries and limits?
- Are you willing to start connecting with other men in authentic relationships?
- Are you willing to take the narrow road, experience rejection, and even suffer - with no clear reward here on earth?
- Sun Nov 2, 2014
Remember that your marriage is her call too. She simply has a differing role. Your leadership means allowing her to play her role freely. It doesn't mean you have to be out in front all the time, making all the decisions. It means allowing the right gifts to surface at the right time in your marriage. It may mean allowing your wife's gifts to predominate from time to time, especially if you're married to a go-getter like the "Proverbs 31 woman."
A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
- Sat Nov 1, 2014
Jesus knows very well the struggle you're in. The Bible says He was tempted in all points as we are. The Holy Spirit knows you through and through. He lives in you, and He was sent to guide you and comfort you.
God is with you, and He knows the struggle is great. He fights with you, side by side. This view of God keeps shame away, but it leaves us room to keep a proper caution toward masturbation.
Think hard about this. Obviously, rejecting pornography and fantasy is a baseline requirement. That must be done, because it's sin. Any sinful form of masturbation must stop as well. While there may be some corners of masturbation that aren't sin, most of what surrounds masturbation is sin and binds us to the point of strangling us spiritually and emotionally. We must face that truth like men, rejecting shame and choosing manhood.