- Tue Jun 17, 2014
It's best to consider our rights with the heart of a bond-servant: We have no rights except those agreed upon by our wives. James says that clambering after perceived rights is the chief reason for fighting and quarreling: "What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don't get it" (James 4:1-2).
When you go through married life saying, "I have a right to __________," it doesn't matter what you pencil in. You may think you have a right to go out with the guys once a week. You may think you have the right to choose every show the family watches on television. Decide where you go on vacation. Determine the restaurant you go to.
But these aren't rights until your wife agrees they are.
Would you rather have rights or righteousness?
- Mon Jun 16, 2014
It's easy to be God's man when life is on a roll, isn't it? But it's another thing to be faithful in thought, word, and deed when we're caught in the vortex of life's storms. But that's exactly when God's man steps up to meet the challenge with integrity. Some examples of stormy times:
- staying with God's way in the absence of an immediate result
- seeking God's purpose when circumstances arise that are beyond our control
- continuing to pray for God's will to be done in every circumstance
- doing God's will whether we feel like it or not
- being satisfied with a reward that may come in the next life as opposed to this one
- staying sexually pure
- doing a good job and earning our paychecks, even if we're not wild about our jobs
Our response both tests and reveals the true depth of our spiritual character.
- Sun Jun 15, 2014
When I am tempted to lose hope and find
myself unable to look in the mirror because
of my shame and guilt, Father, I know that
I can call on You. You are the Kingdom, the
Power, and the Glory. You can change my
perspective. You can give me new eyes to see
what You see--that You love me deeply,
that You long for me as Your precious child.
I am humbled by Your pursuit and by the
thought that You see beauty when I struggle
to see beyond darkness. The depths of sin
shackle and bind me, but You hold the key
to freedom and Your love breaks the bonds
that burden me.
- Sat Jun 14, 2014
Servant leadership is more than washing your wife's feet once in a while or vacuuming before she returns home from a trip to the mall. It's more than washing dishes, running a load of laundry, or filling her car with gas. We have neighbors who would do these things for us in a pinch.
Serving isn't something we do--it's something we are.
We can't just act like a servant from time to time, whenever it happens to suit our purposes. Rather, we need to become a servant--our minds transformed to think like one, and our hearts transformed to submit like one--all of the time. Jesus became a servant. We, too, must become servants.
How do we do that?
- Fri Jun 13, 2014
What do rules and obedience have to do with great sex? Everything. After all, why did God give us these commands? To torture us? To test us?
No. He gave them to complete us.
God knew our desire for intimacy--and how we could attain it--from the beginning. He knew that women give and receive intimacy through sharing, talking, hugging, and touching. After all, He created her so that men might not be lonely. These traits are perfectly fitted to that purpose.
But God also knew that men would be too hardhearted to appreciate these subtleties and that they would ignore their wives' needs. When they do this, their wives wither emotionally or they become embittered and independent. Oneness never grows. God couldn't leave something this important to the whims of mood.