As the spiritual leader of our home, we’re responsible for protecting our wives, not withering them.
Yet in our role as spiritual leaders, we’ll find no other place in our marriage where it’s more important for us to think Christianly – for her sake. And there’s no place where we’re more willing to stretch Scripture for our sake.
We’re to honor her essence, not feed our lust. Sex with us should be as pure as prayer. We aren’t to bring impurity from our past into the marriage bed: “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral” (Hebrews 13:4).