Neither party should have total control of their yes or no in the marriage bed. Sex under the total control of the husband isn’t God’s plan. If the wife is being consistently forced to have sex against her will, then something is wrong with the relationship. Simultaneously, the wife can’t have full control of her no, always waiting until she is in the mood. If the husband is being consistently forced against his will not to have sex, then something is wrong with the relationship here as well.
What about you? Have you been an example of holiness in the marriage bed? Is your wife your only vessel of sexual satisfaction? Or do you absolve any means to your orgasmic end, no matter how dark or demeaning?