As spiritual leaders, men are to lead their families to Christian greatness, which is another way of saying normal Christian behavior. As helpers, women are to lift their husbands to Christian greatness by revealing the blind spots keeping them from normal, Christian behaviors. (Please note that “lift them” is not a synonym for “control them” or “take them over.”)
You must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking. They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts …
You, however, did not come to know Christ that way…You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. (EPHESIANS 4:17-18, 20, 22-24)