Men need to be accepted as men. This is the very reason accountability groups can be so vital. The true intimacy of friendship and acceptance actually heals the wounds so that the false intimacy of masturbation and porn is no longer needed as a pain-killing medication.
Even more important, men need to be accepted and affirmed by God.
A thought for the today: God just wants to put His arm around you and have a steak with you.
Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If
anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I
will come in and eat with him, and he with me.