At a men’s retreat, 550 men took a survey with the following question: “What causes you to disconnect from God on a continual, habitual, or fatal basis?”
More than 90 percent of the men indicated (anonymously) that lust, porn, and sexual fantasy were their top reasons for spiritual disconnection. Shockingly, more than fifty men at the retreat admitted that they were having–or had had–an extramarital affair. Equally shocking was the fact that the majority of the men were serving in key leadership positions throughout the church.
The point? You are not alone when you admit that you have something less than sexual integrity.
Men are watchmen who must stand guard and diligently screen what we allow into our hearts for consumption. Otherwise, the full cycle of good intention, failure, and guilt repeats itself and will keep repeating itself until a final, painful event that leads to devastation. The big issues that impact our spiritual health and relationships require more than just abstaining from certain behaviors or words. It is an issue of the heart, mind, and soul.