Providing a lifetime soul mate is on God’s list, but how soon we’ll seem like soul mates on a day-to-day basis depends upon the softness of our hearts to His sanctification work, both inside and outside the bedroom. That’s part of God’s higher ways.

He wants happiness for you, but He also wants what is best for your marriage.

All too often we ignore God’s higher-ways point of view and miss His vision for our marriages, which He’s intended as our very own under-the-radar, no-headline, home mission field.

If your first concern is to look after yourself, you’ll

never find yourself. But if you forget about yourself

and look to me, you’ll find both yourself and me.

(MATTHEW 10:39, MSG)

We need a fresher view of sin. It even might be helpful to have a whole new word for sin. God’s law are a good thing, and they are meant to be our friend. His laws teach us what is normal and what is not, yet we fixate too much on the restrictions represented by the word sin.

It’s not that the word sin is a poor one. The literal Greek meaning–“missing God’s mark”–is right on target. Even that emotional impact that the word sin evokes shouldn’t be a problem, because we need a word that elicits urgency and respect. After all, sin is a dangerous thing. Any veteran of the battle for sexual purity knows firsthand the destruction, bondage, and spiritual disease that sin carries with it. We need to fear God and respect sin for our own good.