Once we were slaves on the auction block of sin. We stood broken by every evil and foolish thing we’d ever done. Yet our pure Master inexplicably saw value in us, paying for our freedom with His blood that we might serve Him. Experiencing His great love, we returned His love by working in His kingdom, happily marked by the Holy Spirit (see Ephesians 1:13).
A husband’s position as leader cannot be separated from God’s call to submission, and the bond-servant model of love can and must serve as our paradigm of leadership. A bond-servant loves his master as he loves himself, and he’s committed to helping his master fully live and fully blossom as a person.
But my wife is not my master? True, but becoming-one-with-her-essence is your master. You submit your rights in whatever way necessary as a leader to attain this, not because she has authority over you, but because you love her. You’ve been commanded to love her in precisely this way by someone who does have authority over you — Jesus Christ.