It’s best to consider our rights with the heart of a bond-servant: We have no rights except those agreed upon by our wives. James says that clambering after perceived rights is the chief reason for fighting and quarreling: “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don’t get it” (James 4:1-2).
When you go through married life saying, “I have a right to __________,” it doesn’t matter what you pencil in. You may think you have a right to go out with the guys once a week. You may think you have the right to choose every show the family watches on television. Decide where you go on vacation. Determine the restaurant you go to.
But these aren’t rights until your wife agrees they are.
Would you rather have rights or righteousness?