Dads who are emotionally or physically disconnected from their sons etch a huge question mark over their sons’ futures. What their sons are asking themselves is, Am I worthy of love and acceptance? As little boys grow into big boys, they spend the rest of their lives trying to answer that question.
Ask a bunch of guys about their relationships with their dads, and they will either sprout a smile, be moved to tears, or display anger or indifference. The fact is that legacies of abandonment, disapproval, divorce, or anger rob boys of the father blessing and predispose them to self-destructive tendencies as grown men.
God’s plan is not for our lives to be shaped by the losses or hurts from the past, but that we become the products of His work, shaped into the image of His Son. “Yet, O LORD, you are our Father. We are the clay, you are the potter; we are all the work of your hand” (ISAIAH 64:8).