Evaluate your treatment of your wife. If it’s unkind and uncaring, confess this to her, ask her to forgive you, and begin the journey of finally discovering who God intended her to be.
You may find it difficult to recognize your wife’s ministry, but you’ll always be able to hear its urgency if you keep your antennas up.
A bond servant always made room for his master’s gifts and ministries so his master might fully live and blossom. That’s why we must keep talking with our wife, not so much to understand but to hear her feelings. We must make room for what God places on her heart and respect her gifts, although those gifts may be tough to recognize. Yet our effort to make room for her gifts frees her essence to find its place in the marriage.