Your goal is sexual purity. Here’s a good working definition of it–good because of its simplicity:
You are sexually pure when no sexual gratification comes from anyone or anything but your wife.
Purity means stopping sexual gratification that comes to us from outside our marriage. But how do we stop it?
We’re able to draw outside sexual gratification from only two places: the eyes and the mind. Therefore, to be successful in the battle for our sexual perimeter, we must blockade the “shipping lanes” of the eyes and mind. Beyond that, we also want to make sure that we have healthy, positive affections and attitudes in our relationships with our wives. In other words, we want our hearts to be right.
That means your objective in the war against lust is to build three perimeters of defense into your life:
- With your eyes.
- In your mind.
- In your heart.