With more than 1.11 billion users, Facebook has become a staple in today’s modern culture, a revolutionary social and marketing tool, massive industry with its own vernacular. Let me add a new phrase, the “Facebook Fumble”. This is one with devastating repercussions.
By nature, Facebook was designed to connect with old and new “Friends.” It’s like having a high school reunion online, anytime. You can “Like” people, photos, comments and corporate brands and receive regular “Posts” on your “Wall.” You can create “Groups” of individuals with similar interests. You can also “stalk” others from a virtual distance by viewing photographs, comments of others.
Facebook is so ingrained into our society it’s even one of the fastest ways to spread news, outrunning the television and media outlets to breaking events. These days, people wake up to the morning cup of jo and read their Facebook before other news sources.
Unfortunately, all this social enabling, while entertaining and immensely useful to re-connect with people, is causing a threat to the family and marriage.
I call it the “Facebook Fumble” because more than a third of divorce filings last year contained the word “Facebook,” according to a survey by Divorce Online, a UK-based legal services firm. The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers says 81% of its members have used or faced evidence plucked from Facebook or other social networking sites over the last five years. And, 66% of the lawyers surveyed cited Facebook foibles as the source of online evidence with 1 in 5 adults reported to use Facebook for flirting.
Facebook is one ball you don’t want to drop. It can bring you down. It can ruin the “trust” in a marriage, and lead to affairs — virtual or physical.
Here’s the rub: While Facebook is a great social networking tool — and one I’m involved with — it has the power to expose the cracks in men’s character.
Tips to Avoid the Facebook Fumble
Begin by honestly establishing your plan with Facebook. Sounds silly, but take a minute to establish your mission, and align it with God’s mission, and how Facebook can serve as a tool. Then, put in the following measures:
1. Watch What You’re Looking At
Your eyes can lead you to think about someone or something, which can lead you to act in ways that do not reflect a God’s man. So many times in the Bible, the word “eyes” and “sin” are connected. In the Lord’s Prayer Jesus taught us to ask God to “lead us not into temptation.” Then in Mark 14:38, we’re warned to “Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.” So, be on alert when on Facebook, and watch what you’re looking at so you can avoid being tempted.
2. Watch What or Who You’re Looking For
Ask yourself, what’s my motive for being on Facebook? And, remind yourself every time you go there. Find some old friends. Share your interests or engage people to follow you and your brand — all healthy stuff. But don’t use Facebook to find trouble. Trouble will find you easily enough. In Proverbs, we learn that “motives are weighed by the Lord” so examine yours regularly before you go looking on Facebook.
3. Watch What You Say and Do
Your words and actions on Facebook are tracked, depending on your Privacy settings. So seemingly harmless “Likes” of photos or flirtatious “Comments” can illustrate a track record of your character breaches. More importantly, your words and actions reflect what’s going on inside your heart and the true mission you are trying to accomplish. And, if you’re married, don’t get into conversations with other women about their personal lives which can create attachments that precede affairs of the heart, mind and body.
Establish this rule: Do not engage with any other woman and no private conversations with anyone other than your wife, mother or sisters.
4. Ask Someone to Be Your Watchdog
Reality-check time! True transparency is only possible if someone else is watching. Ask a close friend, or your wife, to follow your “Wall” and your actions as a “Close Friend.” You may want to give them your password info so they can help make any instant course corrections. Marriage is sacred and your word is your reputation. So get a watchdog and make changes to your Facebook life. God’s man humbly admits his mistakes, does what’s right and stops doing what is wrong.
5. Watch How God Can Use Facebook
If your mission aligns with God’s, and you watch what and who you’re looking at, examine your motive and what you say and do, and have some accountability, then Facebook can serve an incredible purpose. Encourage others. Share scripture, life learnings and humorous thoughts then watch God move!
* * *
Try the 30-day Free Trial and sign up for the Every Man Ministries Newsletter.
Kenny Luck is the president and founder of Every Man Ministries. As the former men’s pastor at Saddleback Church in California and current leadership pastor at Crossline Community Church, Kenny has found the proven way to improve men’s ministries around the world. Sleeping Giant is this blueprint, and gives men the tools they need to lead and understand their own men’s ministry. Watch Kenny’s teachings atEveryManMinistries.com and start your men’s group today!
Follow Every Man Ministries now on Facebook, Twitter (@everymm,) and YouTube.
365 pharmacy viagra: Pharm Express 24 – provigil indian pharmacy
buy generic viagra europe: viagra prescription canada – viagra super active canada
where to buy over the counter female viagra: online prescription viagra – viagra for women
how can you get viagra [url=https://vgrsources.com/#]VGR Sources[/url] sildenafil 25 mg mexico
price of sildenafil in india: price of sildenafil 50 mg – generic sildenafil 50mg
buy viagra in india: female viagra online buy – cheap viagra online free shipping australia
viagra online best price [url=https://vgrsources.com/#]sildenafil 100mg tablets buy online[/url] lowest price viagra
https://vgrsources.com/# how can you get viagra over the counter
viagra for sale paypal: VGR Sources – can you buy viagra in mexico
best viagra pills online: VGR Sources – viagra tablets price in uk
how much is sildenafil in uk [url=https://vgrsources.com/#]viagra generic cheap[/url] sildenafil comparison
cipla viagra: VGR Sources – canadian pharmacies viagra
viagra 500mg price: VGR Sources – sildenafil 10 mg daily
https://vgrsources.com/# buy female viagra pills
order generic viagra from india [url=https://vgrsources.com/#]sildenafil 20 mg lowest price[/url] pfizer viagra price
cheap viagra in australia: sildenafil 48 tabs 50 mg price – how can i get viagra in australia
100mg sildenafil 1 pill: VGR Sources – viagra 4 pack
where to buy female viagra in australia [url=https://vgrsources.com/#]VGR Sources[/url] where can you buy viagra over the counter in canada
how to get viagra united states: viagra buy in australia – where is the best place to buy viagra online
Preis fГјr Viagra 50 mg: viagra pharmacy australia – viagra professional canada
where can you get women’s viagra: sildenafil over the counter – price of 100mg viagra
https://vgrsources.com/# sildenafil nz cost
where to buy viagra pharmacy: VGR Sources – sildenafil 100 mg tablet coupon
generic sildenafil no prescription: VGR Sources – viagra compare prices
where to buy viagra online usa [url=https://vgrsources.com/#]where to order viagra online in canada[/url] online viagra india
where can i buy viagra pills over the counter: cheap viagra pills online – cheap viagra uk
viagra 150 mg prices: VGR Sources – generic viagra soft tabs
https://vgrsources.com/# viagra pills price in india
usa viagra 100: female viagra buy – how to buy cheap viagra online
where to buy cheap viagra in uk [url=https://vgrsources.com/#]VGR Sources[/url] buy generic sildenafil online
viagra tablets in india online: VGR Sources – india viagra tablets
cheap viagra online fast delivery: VGR Sources – order sildenafil
sildenafil citrate 50 mg [url=https://vgrsources.com/#]VGR Sources[/url] viagra capsules in india
viagra south africa: VGR Sources – 150 mg viagra for sale
sildenafil best price canada: VGR Sources – sildenafil citrate tablets 100mg
cheap viagra pills free shipping [url=https://vgrsources.com/#]canadian viagra coupon[/url] buying sildenafil in mexico
can i order viagra: VGR Sources – sildenafil 50 mg online uk
buy viagra online discount: VGR Sources – sildenafil for sale online
where to buy viagra over the counter: prescription viagra 100mg – buy generic 100mg viagra online
india viagra: cheap viagra paypal – female viagra cost
https://vgrsources.com/# viagra lowest price canada
viagra no prescription [url=https://vgrsources.com/#]viagra 100mg in canada[/url] where to get viagra prescription
sildenafil 100 mg tablet cost: buy sildenafil no prescription – purchase viagra over the counter
best online sildenafil: VGR Sources – generic viagra usa
online viagra paypal [url=https://vgrsources.com/#]VGR Sources[/url] sildenafil 25mg 50mg 100mg
how to get generic viagra: VGR Sources – cheap generic viagra online
cheap viagra buy: VGR Sources – brand viagra from canada
sildenafil pills 100mg [url=https://vgrsources.com/#]cheap generic viagra 150 mg[/url] online viagra best
https://vgrsources.com/# purchasing viagra in usa
where to buy cheap viagra online: buy real viagra cheap – can you purchase viagra in mexico
cheap generic viagra online canada: female viagra pills price – cheapest price for viagra 100mg
where to buy prednisone in australia: Predni Pharm – prednisone online
10mg prednisone daily: Predni Pharm – prednisone 5443
Online statin therapy without RX [url=http://crestorpharm.com/#]Crestor Pharm[/url] Crestor Pharm
Rybelsus online pharmacy reviews: semaglutide pen – Semaglu Pharm
LipiPharm: atorvastatin (lipitor) 20 mg tablet – FDA-approved generic statins online
http://lipipharm.com/# LipiPharm
SemagluPharm [url=https://semaglupharm.com/#]п»їBuy Rybelsus online USA[/url] Semaglu Pharm
rosuvastatin aspirin: Crestor Pharm – Order rosuvastatin online legally
buy prednisone online without a script: Predni Pharm – Predni Pharm
Lipi Pharm [url=http://lipipharm.com/#]Lipi Pharm[/url] 10mg atorvastatin
https://semaglupharm.com/# SemagluPharm
how can i order prednisone: PredniPharm – can i buy prednisone over the counter in usa
PredniPharm: buy prednisone 10mg – prednisone without a prescription
Predni Pharm [url=https://prednipharm.shop/#]prednisone pack[/url] prednisone cost us
No doctor visit required statins: Crestor Pharm – Crestor Pharm
rosuvastatin 20mg price: Online statin therapy without RX – Crestor Pharm
Predni Pharm [url=https://prednipharm.shop/#]PredniPharm[/url] prednisone 50 mg buy
https://lipipharm.com/# LipiPharm
atorvastatinжЇд»Ђд№€иЌЇ: LipiPharm – No RX Lipitor online
Crestor Pharm [url=http://crestorpharm.com/#]side effects crestor[/url] Crestor Pharm
prednisone cream rx: Predni Pharm – prednisone 2.5 mg daily
CrestorPharm: Crestor home delivery USA – Crestor Pharm
Crestor Pharm [url=http://crestorpharm.com/#]CrestorPharm[/url] No doctor visit required statins
https://crestorpharm.shop/# CrestorPharm
prednisone 10mg tablet price: generic prednisone cost – prednisone 5 mg tablet rx
Affordable Rybelsus price: what supplements not to take with semaglutide – henry semaglutide
Predni Pharm: buy prednisone without prescription paypal – PredniPharm
PredniPharm [url=https://prednipharm.shop/#]Predni Pharm[/url] PredniPharm
SemagluPharm: how to get semaglutide online – Semaglu Pharm
Crestor Pharm: what is generic crestor – Best price for Crestor online USA
Crestor mail order USA [url=http://crestorpharm.com/#]Online statin therapy without RX[/url] CrestorPharm
SemagluPharm: Rybelsus online pharmacy reviews – Semaglu Pharm
Crestor Pharm: Over-the-counter Crestor USA – crestor names
http://semaglupharm.com/# Semaglu Pharm
Rybelsus online pharmacy reviews: SemagluPharm – SemagluPharm
PredniPharm [url=https://prednipharm.com/#]Predni Pharm[/url] PredniPharm
Buy cholesterol medicine online cheap: rosuvastatin withdrawal symptoms – CrestorPharm
Semaglu Pharm [url=http://semaglupharm.com/#]Semaglu Pharm[/url] rybelsus costco
rosuvastatin prices: crestor nursing considerations – Safe online pharmacy for Crestor
https://crestorpharm.shop/# Crestor Pharm
Affordable Rybelsus price: Semaglu Pharm – Semaglu Pharm
rosuvastatin pill identifier: can crestor cause kidney stones – Best price for Crestor online USA
Rybelsus online pharmacy reviews: how long does it take semaglutide to get out of your system – SemagluPharm
LipiPharm [url=https://lipipharm.shop/#]which statin is better lipitor or crestor[/url] can you crush atorvastatin
10 mg prednisone: Predni Pharm – prednisone 20mg cheap
https://semaglupharm.com/# Semaglu Pharm
LipiPharm: Cheap Lipitor 10mg / 20mg / 40mg – LipiPharm
Safe online pharmacy for Crestor [url=https://crestorpharm.com/#]can crestor cause liver damage[/url] Crestor mail order USA
SemagluPharm: tirzepatide vs semaglutide cost – Semaglu Pharm
https://semaglupharm.com/# SemagluPharm
SemagluPharm: Semaglutide tablets without prescription – Semaglu Pharm
CrestorPharm [url=http://crestorpharm.com/#]does crestor cause dementia[/url] Crestor Pharm
SemagluPharm: Where to buy Semaglutide legally – online semaglutide
https://semaglupharm.com/# how many mg is 30 units of semaglutide
prednisone 10 mg brand name: over the counter prednisone medicine – prednisone 2 mg daily
Predni Pharm [url=http://prednipharm.com/#]buy 40 mg prednisone[/url] Predni Pharm