Grieving the Holy Spirit
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs. That it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29
The Holy Spirit’s best work in people is seen in how He changes the way they relate to one another. You want the best parts of your character displayed in your kids. When your positive qualities, ways, words, actions, and encouragements are reproduced in your child’s interactions with others, that brings you joy. On the opposite end though, if they abuse, discourage, and harm others by their words and ways, that brings you grief. “That’s not me” you protest. I think our waywardness has the same affect on the Holy Spirit.
One of the Holy Spirit’s tasks is to experientially validate for every believer God’s awesome love, acceptance, and encouragement toward each of His children. We “taste and see” that the Lord is good through the Holy Spirit, bringing His goodness to us (see Palm 34:8). We sense it and feel it deeply. We love how the Holy Spirit takes the intellectual concepts of the love, mercy and grace of God and makes them practical and experiential.
But it’s not supposed to stop there, my brotha. The real end game is that we give away that same affirmation, acceptance, encouragement, and support to others in our areas of influence – beginning with our own family – versus tearing people down with our words, holding on to resentments, and practicing vengeance. One is the work of the Holy Spirit in and through a believer; the other is the work of evil in and through a believer. Only a man who has forgotten his own encounter with God’s grace could deny it intentionally to someone else.
Father, thank you for your grace. May I be your conduit to others.