God entrusted your wife to you, and she placed herself in trust to you. How can we entrust such a valuable gift to some concept of cherishing based alone on wispy feelings? Christians like to say, “Love is not a feeling, it’s a commitment.” Well, this is the time to heed those words. We owe that love, despite our feelings.
In our society, we have “sensitivity training” and “cross-cultural enrichment” classes. We believe if we can only teach people the “right” feelings, they’ll act correctly. In the Bible, however, God tells us the opposite: We’re to first act correctly, and then right feelings will follow.
If you don’t feel like cherishing, cherish anyway. Your right feelings will arrive soon enough.
Remember, the Bible says that God loved us while we were yet sinners. Clearly, loving the unlovely is a foundation of God’s character, and cherishing the unlovely is its bedrock. Since Christ died for the church – the unlovely – and since our marriages should parallel Christ’s relationship to the church, we have no excuse when we don’t cherish our wives.
God loved us before we were worthy; we can do nothing less for our wives.