The number one dilemma facing Christian men is isolation. Today, more than any other time in history, American men feel emotionally and relationally isolated. Sure, we have friends and we are certainly leading busy lives. But as a general condition, we males are not connected to one another for any deep purposes.
Every man feels, deep down, a yearning to be known, loved and valued as a friend by other men. Men indeed want and need close friends, but our inability to be vulnerable with each other creates what men’s expert Preston Gillham calls “a uniquely masculine attack – isolation.” Men who wouldn’t think twice about risking everything in business or sports have enormous difficulty making themselves vulnerable by risking what’s inside their souls.
Today I will recognize my need to be valued
by other men, and I will seek an opportunity
to connect with a friend on a deeper level.