Who is more wrong: the woman who deprives her husband or the husband who disrespects his wife? The husband, of course. He is the leader of the home. He must lead by example and show others how to walk like Christ.
And how would Christ walk? Given His words below, He’d start here, I suspect:
Why do you look a the speck of sawdust in your [wife’s] eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your [wife], “[Wife], let me take the speck out of your eye,” when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your [wife’s] eye. (LUKE 6:41-42)
The bottom line is this: if a husband isn’t willing to submit to oneness (intimacy and tenderness) outside the bedroom, how can he expect his wife to sumbit sexually inside the bedroom? He needs to take care of the log in his own eye first, and then he’ll be able to see clearly to help her.