The Lost Boys - Epidemic Fatherlessness Creating Deadly Consequences

Bored, unsupervised, fatherless boys are to policemen what “unaccounted for” uranium represents to counter-terrorism worldwide—a threat to peace, to innocent people, and a major problem that demands attention.   Among boys all it takes to “weaponize” the plentiful supply of youthranium in our country today is a really bad idea offered in vacuum of moral convictions.  Deep within the brain of one our nation’s fatherless at the center of the latest “boys gone evil” news story, a spark was felt, a neuron fired, and words were expressed.  “I got it!” he says. “Wouldn’t it be cool if… we killed someone?”    The idea is welcomed and executed without filters or objection.  This is gonna be fun.


Meet the Lost Boys.


They have been on their own since they were little and have remained on their own as boys hoping to become men.  Raised by single mothers, they have been unsupervised and un-mentored by any male figure as long they can remember.  The macabre and toxic excitement rising from this deadly brainstorm is not just about a lazy summer, it’s about becoming men in a cesspool of broken male culture, character, and conduct that becomes the norm for lost boys.  This broken culture produces beliefs (about self and others) and behaviors Kenny Luck, Every Man Ministriesshaped by peer angst and self loathing instead of fatherly concern and modeling.   The result:  broken male culture that trains young men to act selfishly and separate their hearts from their heads when a decision they make impacts others negatively.  It’s called alexithymia.  Look it up.  The root words that form the word mean to “repel” (alexo) and “the soul” (thumos).  It is a picture of being emotionally dead. 


Fatherlessness is creating these types of boys by the millions with multiplied billions of their social interactions creating a titanic wave of injustice for innocent people.     Emotionally unaware and socially detached, these boys cannot connect their actions with the feelings of others. This emotional compartmentalization provides the inner freedom and sanction necessary to kill, make others suffer, and then talk about it objectively like the young men in this case.  The police interviews with these boys are surreal.   They talk about killing a man the way a person would describe building a roast beef sandwich.  It’s on the level of “We were hungry so we ate.”


Totally removed from all this and living with plenty of purpose was another young man who was unaware that his time on planet earth was drawing to a tragic and senseless close. Christopher Lane’s life was anything but boring.  He was a college athlete and leader who met a wonderful girl living in Duncan Oklahoma.  Visiting his girlfriend and deciding to go for a jog in this small town of 24,000 was a sign of who he was and where he was going in life—forward.   Running forward by a home filled with the lost boys was his only mistake on the day which he could not have possibly envisioned.  One saw Christopher jog by and said the others, “There’s our target.”  They proceeded to follow Lane in a car and shot him in the back before driving off.   He staggered for a few feet and collapsed.


The same boy told police, “We were bored and didn’t have anything to do so we decided to kill somebody.”  The motive? For the fun of it.  Young boys can only think like this in a vacuum of moral beliefs that is not being supplied by the one person in society responsible for the shaping of boys—a father.  Boys who experience healthy doses of acceptance, affirmation, authority, and accountability from a father are less likely to develop in such a compartmentalized way emotionally.  Good old time, talk, and healthy touch from dads goes a long way to form souls of young boys who grow into emotionally healthy men—ones able to consider others first.


Everybody gets that.


On the local level, the guys who really get it are law enforcement officers.  If you don’t believe me, talk to them. They see broken families, no fathers, lost boys, no models, no mentors, and the detached pain-makers making news and being arrested daily.  They see boys being weaponized into heartless destroyers at multiple levels in the home and community.  If they had one wish it would be for leadership development among dads (young and old) raising the next generation.  These men and this movement are waiting out there to be awakened.  It’s the Sleeping Giant and it must rise or else promising young men like Christopher Lane and countless others will fall victim to the Lost Boys looking to have some fun.







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Tags: Being God's Man , Family Leadership , Fatherhood

5 Comment(s)


Spot on Kenny. And fatherlessness is also a problem for families where Dad is still physically present... but emotional in every other way... emotionally, spiritually etc. We... ... facilitate Father-Son and Dad & Daughter Adventures... for both biological & non-biological children alike. I'd sure appreciate you checking us out, and making a mention of our heart & mission... of turning the hearts of fathers to their children, and the hearts of children to their fathers. Exceedingly abundant blessings, Darren


Wow! This story is so true...I've been a police officer for 20 years and work near a city with one of the highest transient and juvenile runaway populations in the nation. I contact one of these "Lost boys" after they have done a crime spree and the common answer to "Why did you do it"? It's a response that is right on with what this article talks about, A fatherless nation of young men. The anger towards their life and their father not being there for them leads to a loss of perception regarding "right and wrong". Most of these "Lost boys" have been institutionalized from a young age. They have no respect for themselves or others around them (to include law enforcement). I communicate and pray for these young men, as I transport them to juvenile hall, that the hole in their heart can only be filled by the heavenly Father......Great article! Praise God!

Steve Matten

The doors are open for reaching these young men for Christ, at the county juvenile hall and the local children's shelters. Unfortunately there are few there who will reach out to them. But we are doing this very thing in Orange County, California. In 2012 we had over 12,000 contacts with these youth and hundreds of them committed their lives to Christ for the first time. It is the best that these boys would never become lost but if they do become lost, we know where to find them.

Linda Cruze

Weeser - Kenny Luck (from Saddleback) hits the nail right on the head. I'll be sending this to Marvin also . . . Daddy-O

gifford tebbs

My Father was a "good man", physically present but emotionally absent. I suspect his father was the same. So, where does it stop? HOW does it stop?

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