The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. (I CORINTHIANS 7:3-5)
Most of us care more about our sex than we do about God’s Word and our wives, so we’re purposefully sloppy in handling God’s Word in our bedrooms. When God writes, “Her body is not her own,” we read, “She’s my sex toy. I’ll serve her everywhere else, but here she’ll serve me!” We treat our wife like some call girl on retainer, a love machine at our beck and call.
But your wife isn’t your sex toy. This twisted spiritual leadership in our master bedrooms is the main reason why sexual oneness has died in Christian marriages. Too many demeaned wives have been forced to draw back sexually because God never intended them to carry the burden of sexual fulfillment that their husbands laid on them.