When consciences guide, personal convictions can and will create impasses between believers, including between husbands and wives. But these differences need not break marital unity. So how do we resolve such impasses lovingly?
The natural pattern is for the “leader” to call for a vote, as it were, and break the tie in his own favor. That’s what Paul, as an apostle, could have done. But he chose not to.
Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother’s way…. But…if your brother is distressed because of what you eat, you are no longer acting in love. Do not by your eating destroy your brother for whom Christ died….
Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification. Do not destroy the work of God for the sake of food. All food is clean, but it is wrong for a man to eat anything that causes someone else to stumble. It is better not to eat meat or drink wine or to do anything else that will cause your brother to fall (ROMANS 14:13-15, 19-21, emphasis added)