A husband ought to know that he is to treat his wife with tenderness as a fellow heir to the kingdom of grace (see 1 Peter 3:7), and doing so makes it far easier for her to desire him. He also ought to know that since God never spoke of sexuality outside of the context of two, He did not give us our sexuality for ourselves. Our sexuality was given to us primarily for our partner’s pleasure, not for our own (see 1 Corinthians 7:3-4).
The letter of the law in a single verse can never transcend the spirit of the law of love, which is found in Matthew 22:37-39:
“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and
with all your soul and with all your mind.” This
is the first and greatest commandment. And the
second is like it: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”
All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two