Addictive sex is devoid of intimacy. Sex addicts are utterly self-focused. They cannot achieve genuine intimacy because their self-obsession leaves no room for giving to others.
Addictive sex is victimizing. The overwhelming obsession with self-gratification blinds sex addicts to the harmful effects their behavior is having on others and on themselves.
Addictive sex ends in despair. When married couples make love, they’re more fulfilled for having had the experience. Addictive sex leaves the participants feeling guilty, regretting the experience. Rather than fulfilling them, it leaves them feeling more empty.
Addictive sex is used to escape pain and problems. The escapist nature of addictive sex is often one of the clearest indicators that it is present.