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Suicide, Self-Absorption, and Men

After spending a decade on the phones counseling depressed, down, and suicidal people I have come to the conclusion that suicide (in some form) is a thought all men have pondered. From “I wish I wasn’t here” to “everybody would be better off without me” to “I want the pain to end”, all men have wanted dramatic relief at some time in their lives. Unfortunately, while more women attempt suicide, it’s men who are more successful taking their own lives. It’s the final step in the plan for destruction, set in motion by our enemy. All too often, the thoughts, circumstances, sadness or brain trauma that lead up to suicide, get suppressed momentarily, only to be resurfaced more effectively.

 

Hope gets lost. The decision of self-demolition ensues. Yet…There is hope, and there is life. It’s just one call away. And, it comes with a promise. The key word to remember is “yet…”

 

Suicide, Self-Absorption, and MenThe Bible, and the entire book of Lamentations, includes many true stories about being in distress. One Lament, in chapter 3 verses 19-20, provides context we can relate to: Feelings of affliction, aimless wandering, bitterness, and a downcast soul. But in verse 21, we find the key word to remember.

 

 

Spend any time in the book of Psalms, and you will read songs that share a depressing soul only to follow with a surrendering “yet God”-type of acknowledgement. While we wrestle with thoughts of suicide, we have to remember “yet God.”Yet God is with you. Yet God is able. Yet God wants to save you. Yet God promises to answer your call.

 

It’s like picking up an emergency hotline to God. While the prophet Jonah was in the depth of the sea, inside a fish, he prayed a “yet God”prayer:

 

 

Through the prophet Jeremiah, God promises to answer your “yet”call:

 

 

Better yet, God says he will save you when you call on him:

 

 

Still, making that call may seem like an open-ended proposition.

 

 

Avoid Toxic Traps

 

Men are often like Mono Lake, which looks great from a distance. But there’s something unusual about this lake. It doesn’t have any inflows of fresh water, or outflows to release excess. The result is toxic water. Like Mono Lake, men often look good on the outside, but inside there is poison because of a lack of fresh thoughts and excess toxic ones.

 

So, here are three steps to avoid being like Mono Lake, and being able to say “yet God.”

 

  1. See the big picture.

The single most important key to suicide intervention is escaping self-absorption. The enemy is heavily invested in isolating you to be alone with your thoughts, unable to see the forest through the trees. He wants to isolate you physically, relationally, emotionally and spiritually. Feeling disconnected from everything and everyone facilitates thoughts of suicide. But think about it, there’s no such thing as a man who is self-absorbed and also connected to God and other people.

 

Being able to say “yet God”takes a decision to acknowledge the big picture, and escape self-absorption.

 

  1. Talk about the toxins.

You have to discover hope. But when you’re in the pit, it’s hard to see a way out —until someone hands you a ladder. Many times, the proverbial ladder is a conversation with someone, other than yourself, with no other agenda other than to help you and provide perspective on your situation. You need another voice of reason, perhaps from a friend, professional counselor, or the voice of God. Prayer is by far the best modality. Take your issues to God, and he promises to listen and answer.

 

But you have to be willing to talk dirty, in other words, be transparent. If talk about the toxins in your life, you will discover hope.

 

  1. Enjoy the view.

You can’t see Mono Lake until you take action and get a good view. The next step to being able to say “yet God,”is to rearrange your lifestyle around hope. Create connections with hope-filled people and places. Go where “life”happens like church, Bible studies, and small group meetings.

 

Thoughts of suicide are not fatal or final. It only feels like that. Being able to say “yet God,”will help you avoid self-absorption, rediscover hope and rearrange your lifestyle. The result is nothing short of an amazing, awe-inspiring view of life.

 

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Kenny Luck is the president and founder of Every Man Ministries. As the former men’s pastor at Saddleback Church in California and current leadership pastor at Crossline Community Church, Kenny has found the proven way to improve men’s ministries around the world. Sleeping Giant is this blueprint, and gives men the tools they need to lead and understand their own men’s ministry. Watch Kenny’s teachings at EveryManMinistries.com and start your men’s group today!

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