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The dark side of a touchy subject
Talk about a rough crowd.
One hundred and fifty college students on the campus of the University of Southern California have poured into a lecture hall to hear me. To make matters worse they have no idea what’s coming. All they know is that they have come to a “Relationships Forum” and that some older guy is going to be talking on sex, love, and dating.
What they do not know is that I am about to gently but firmly pass along what I know about a coming apocalypse of consequences related to their favorite past time – hooking up.
The forecast for tonight’s meeting is increasing clouds, a 100% chance of thundershowers, and golf-ball sized hail.
By Kenny Luck
Author of Sleeping Giant
Epidemic fatherlessness, deadly consequences, & your church
Father’s day is coming and our national church response will be predictable.
Will you have the dads stand up? Will you pray for them? Will you show a funny YouTube video? Maybe have some classic cars or motorcycles on the patio? Maybe you will fire up some BBQ and serve up some beef. This picnic will follow a message out of the can focused on the importance of dads, leadership, or family. There’s a file with the label “dads” or “father’s day” on it or there’s always the “act like men” passage from 1 Corinthians 16. I know you are going to do something for your guys but the more important question is: will it reflect reality, activate your men, and launch a visible wave of men’s community at your urging? Probably not. The weekend will pass and you will pass right by the elephant in the room – the fatherless factor in your own community and congregation.
I’m a big fan for marriage, even second marriages. Why? Because although God despises divorce, He loves family, and is more concerned about our character. He uses tests, trials and yes, even divorce. Why? Because he likes to redeem life from death.
If you’re married, keep it that way. Love your spouse like Christ loved the church, sacrificing everything for her. However, should the divorce bug bite, there is still hope for a second go around.
American men grew up idolizing James Bond for many reasons, including always "getting the girl." I admit, I'm a fan of the Ian Fleming character and movies. But this week, I want you to see that James Bond is an icon of infidelity. God’s man can learn something from agent 007.
License to Kill Heart, Body and Soul
Bond, James Bond, had a “license to kill” in the line of duty, which was a license to thrill audiences for decades with action, adventure and romance. His license gave him access to travel the world and “entertain” women of all nationalities and backgrounds. This fantasy hero captures men, creating an unreal notion that men, and women, can slip between the sheets without causing any damage.
A recent study reports one-third of new marriages start with online dating; obviously making the computer the latest, greatest cupid's arrow. I can see where online dating websites can play a role in connecting two people, but they don’t replace two of God’s timely dating truths.
1. Where to Begin?
You can do relationships your way or God's way.
So many adults take a vacation from God in the dating and sex arena only to wind up paying a steep emotional and relational price that will harm them for the rest of their lives. You may relate to thinking either you know better than God (pride) or that you will "miss out" (fear) if you honor him. Both impatience and arrogance breed horrible dating decisions.